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26 March 2017

Time to redefine masculinity?

Dear Men,

It all began from home once when you saw your family with drooped shoulders as you welcomed your baby sister into the world - because she was "not very fair", when she was told she couldn't ride a bike as you boasted of your new ride in your neighborhood, when you were taught to be aggressive and not hold back when another kid from the block dares to punch you - but not to shed a tear, EVER!
The stories you heard and the movies you saw taught you that objectifying women as things is completely natural - "You're the best thing I've ever laid my eyes upon and I won't let you away from my sight."
Probably every billboard taught you women need to be flawless for "your consumption" and you need to be rugged - dare you look "feminine" for that's an insult to your manhood.
When a classmate was labeled an opportunist just because she scored better and snubbed the advances of your hormonally-charged friends, you really wanted to help but didn't know what to do - because it was "none of your business".
Maybe it should have been.
In your first job, you were the stud of every meeting and your partner in most of your projects was a "sweetie" who supported your expertise!
Something really shrunk in your chest, maybe it was your pride ... you realized you can burst this bubble - of conditioning!
Then on, whenever your "friends" called you a girl to provoke you and you proudly wore that label, asking what makes “girl” an insult, you really grew up.
When your friends labeled a book lover as gay for not being "athletic" enough & you stood up not only for him but for the respect that each sexual orientation deserves, you redefined masculinity.
The world needs you - it needs you to use the "voice" you have to stand up against the gender bias - start from your friend circle, as you may already have. Expand the circle, talk about why there has to be an "ideal" shape to human form, what power really means and why men have to beat themselves up for earning lesser than women.
Thank you!

The Magnolia


The magnolia bloomed again, you think,
as you peek outside the window.
Alas, it's your wife's perfume, yet again.
Once, spring used to be real.
Pen down words that are raw, for raw is beautiful. And the rest? Mere illusion.

Pink or Blue - It's not a colorful thought!

I wonder if it wasn't for gender, how would friendship be, how would the notion of romance be, how would we be? His and her is drilled in our head by school, media and even families, so it's difficult to imagine any role at home, workplace or among friends that isn't influenced by how a person should act, feel, love basis their gender!

Isn't it time for families to teach children to feel loved rather than how to love, to speak up rather than thinking twice before saying a word because they are the "weaker sex" or be the only one to raise their voice and finger of course at home for being the "man of the house"?

Shouldn't everyone be allowed to be sensitive because we are creatures that feel, and mind you, not from the heart but the mind - another stereotype. Should I go with my heart against the "norms" or should I listen to my mind? Really? Your heart pumps blood and yes till it does, you'll live but it's your brain that makes you absorb, remember and even stand up for what you believe in, so let's begin by letting it be!

What do you think?

10 May 2016

The walls

Will a day come when the walls will be so high that we can't see the sun and the moon?


Who is a man?

Who is a man, dad? The one who is strong enough to take control, Son. Really! I will grow up to be a man like mom one day.



We think stars are to be wished on, night to be tiptoed through, day to be run from. World is just a piece of our imagination.